Let’s be real: New Year's resolutions aren't built to last. The process of dedication, consistency, and small milestones isn't always sexy, but that's what gets results.
Here's how to reframe your mindset to ditch New Year's resolutions and embrace intentional routines in 2022.
Allow room for failure.
The problem with resolutions is that failure = guilt + giving up. One stressful week and you're giving into your "forbidden fruit" (e.g., desserts, alcohol, nightly screentime, texting your ex). There are no strict "do it or fail" parameters when we set routines instead or resolutions.
For example, you may start your bedtime routine by reading 10 pages of a book instead of scrolling on your phone. If you miss a few nights here and there, so what? Before you know it, you'll establish a reading habit that is far more rewarding than any passive phone time.
Focus on ability.
If you get knocked off your routine, it can feel like an uphill battle to get back into it. Make a goal around an outcome versus the process to get there.
For example, if you want to run one mile in under 8 minutes, the only way to get there is to practice running. If you're going to crochet an intricate blanket for your friend's new baby, you'll need to watch YouTube tutorials and practice with some yarn.
The habit will be built in when you focus on the end goal (and other residual benefits will come).
Choose a word or mantra.
Some people pick a word to focus on throughout the year, like "balance." For instance, practice balance by setting boundaries on the shared work calendar or meal-prepping for the family every Sunday.
Mantras are similar but more about owning a truth. Maybe it's "I can do something about it," like what Kamala Harris internalized growing up. Read Wisdom From "We’re Speaking: The Life Lessons of Kamala Harris" for more ideas.
Reflection about this past year can help in choosing your word or mantra. What were you missing? What did you start, but want to do more of? How are you growing?
Make a plan.
Nothing happens without a positive mindset and a plan. To make your planning effective, write it down and take action like:
- Set personal OKRs (objectives and key results)
- Complete an annual planning workbook or daily journal
- Have an accountability partner (or the Wise Women community)
- Remove obstacles (e.g., throw away tempting treats in your pantry)
- Use products to help you stay in your routine (like CBD Sleep Drops before bed or Strength Gummies before a workout)
- Make room for celebrating wins along the way
Starting the year with intention is a lot better than attempting lofty resolutions. With the right mindset, planning, and accountability, you'll be set up for success.